Smart Parent Choices
Smart parent choices begin with your ability to effectively communicate with your children as they embark on their journey to adulthood.
With your genuine desire to help them succeed and to be the very best they can be, your decision to master your communication skills will ensure that you remain their go-to person providing them with the assurance, peace-of-mind and certainty they need.
With your communication strengths and support for your children through their fears and concerns, you’ll position yourself as their trusted authority and companion that they can always depend upon.
Through our Smart Parent Choices simple and proven strategies, you’ll soon be equipped to help them to make their own smart choices.
Children are growing up faster than ever and they need you more than ever to support them in a massively changing world.
Position yourself as their trusted authority that they can always depend upon and you’ll be setting them up for a secure future.
The definition of adolescence varies massively across our planet.
In remote villages of South America, adolescence lasts 24 hrs. Young boys are taken out into the jungle and left to find their own way back. If they return safely, they become a man.
In the western world today, children start in their early years wanting all of the advantages of being a child but with none of the responsibility.
Unfortunately, there are many adults in their 20s and 30s who are still trying to avoid the responsibilities of adulthood. In some cases, it could be argued that adolescence is lasting for 20 years or more.
The old adage that it’s “cruel to be kind” needs to be embraced by parents more than ever. Allowing the benefits of adulthood too early and extending the benefits of childhood too long is the greatest disservice you can do to your child.
What might seem to be kind in the moment is cruel in the extreme for their long-term benefit. The law varies from state to state and country to country but what is consistent across them all is that the boundary between being a child an adult is a single birthday.
Without strong and consistent communication over the “child” years, parents are endangering their children to the full force of the law overnight where the penalties can be life changing and destructive.
Where the consequences (and pain) of poor choices as a child will heal quickly, the same cannot be said of those consequence in the adult world. Where do you want your child to learn the rules of life?
Most parents want the best for their children but fewer and fewer are proving able to make the hard decisions when it counts most… in a child’s earlier years.
Allowing a child the pleasure of saving up for something they value and toiling to achieve it is not cruel. Cruelty is teaching them them that life is easy and that rewards are taken not earned.
“Give a man a fish and you feed them for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime” – Maimonides
A child that never learns to budget can spend a lifetime struggling. Lottery winners who consistently lose their fortunes within a few years provide evidence that easy income is soon lost whereas consistent saving and planning leads to greater freedom of choice and a life of less worry and stress.
Financial stress is one of the number one reasons for the breakdown of families. Could something as simple as teaching your child the value of money provide greater certainty of a happier family life. We believe so.
It all starts with good communication though. You can have the greatest intentions in the world but if you can’t communicate it, you’re doomed before you start..
A speaker at a recent Principal’s conference said that great teachers are not those that strive to be friends with their students and neither are they those who rule over them with an iron rod. Great teachers are able to do both and know when is the appropriate time to use each level of communication between the two extremes.
These are the teachers that are loved by their students. Teachers who are respected and never taken advantage of but receive the biggest hugs and high fives on Graduation Day.
Children want to know where the boundaries are and policing those boundaries is the best way to show your love for them.
In an experiment in country schools, it was observed that in schools that had no boundary fence, the children stayed close to the school to play whilst in schools that had a fence, children played all the way to the edge.
They want boundaries. They want to know that you care enough to police the boundaries. You need to communicate that effectively with them.